The Gottman Method

What is The Gottman Method?

It is a research-based approach to couples therapy that focuses on building a strong, healthy relationship through practical tools and strategies. Developed by Drs. John and Julie Schwartz Gottman, it’s grounded in over four decades of scientific research on what makes relationships succeed or struggle.

1

Strengthen their friendship

By building a solid foundation of trust, respect, and emotional support.

2

Manage conflict effectively

By teaching couples how to handle disagreements in a respectful way that doesn’t harm the relationship. This includes learning how to de-escalate arguments, repair moments of tension, and listen to each other’s feelings.

3

Create shared meaning

Encouraging couples to create rituals, shared goals, and a sense of purpose together, which can deepen the emotional connection.

The Gottman Method also emphasizes the importance of mutual respect, emotional intelligence, and empathy, with a focus on turning towards each other in times of stress rather than away. Overall, it provides couples with tools to enhance their emotional connection and resolve conflicts in ways that promote understanding and intimacy.