The Inner Critic Isn’t the Truth
Do you find yourself saying things to yourself you’d never say to someone else?
“You’re not doing enough.”
“You always mess things up.”
“What’s wrong with you?”
This is your inner critic—a voice shaped by past experiences, fear, and unrealistic standards. At Wild Mountain Counselling in Penticton, we help clients quiet that voice and build a more compassionate relationship with themselves.
Where the Inner Critic Comes From
- Critical or perfectionistic caregivers
- Trauma or emotional neglect
- School, work, or cultural expectations
- Beliefs that self-punishment = self-improvement
This voice may have started as a way to keep you safe or motivated—but it often becomes toxic.
How Harsh Self-Talk Affects You
- Increases anxiety, shame, and low self-esteem
- Makes mistakes feel catastrophic
- Sabotages confidence and joy
- Leaves you feeling emotionally unsafe—even in your own mind
How to Start Practicing Self-Compassion
- Catch the Critic in Action
Notice your self-talk without judging it. - Name the Voice
Giving it a name like “The Inner Bully” can help separate it from your identity. - Reframe the Message
Replace “You always fail” with “This is hard, and you’re doing your best.” - Use a Compassionate Tone
Speak to yourself as you would to someone you love.
